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Hey hey! Ever feel like your friendships are getting complicated? You’re not alone. Remember when you were a kid? Your best friend was your whole world. Inseparable. Sharing every secret. But now? It’s a different story.

As we grow up, friendships get tricky. We start wondering, “Am I doing enough?” Sound familiar?

Maintaining Friendships: Are We Doing Too Much?

Here’s the thing: many of us are trying to be superheroes. We’re attempting to maintain every friendship with the same intensity as our childhood BFFs. Exhausting, right?

Take Sarah, for instance. She’s 32, killing it in marketing, but her social life? It’s giving her anxiety. “I feel guilty when I can’t reply to every message or show up at every gathering,”. We’ve all been there, Sarah.

But here’s a liberating truth: it’s okay. You don’t have to be equally close with everyone. Shocking, I know!

So, how did we end up here? Life happened. We moved for college, jobs, love. Our social circles expanded faster than our capacity to nurture them all.

Sunil, a 28-year-old coder, gets it. He’s moved three times in five years. “I’ve got friends scattered everywhere,” he says. “Keeping up with everyone? It’s like a full-time job!”

But here’s where it gets interesting. People are starting to prioritize quality over quantity in friendships. It’s not about how many friends or followers you have anymore. But how well you maintain friendships with those around you. It’s about the real connections.

The Friendship Trio: Hero, Hygiene, and Hub Friends

That’s why we’re seeing new ways of categorizing friendships. Buckle up, because this might change how you view your social circle:

  1. Hero Friends: These are your ride-or-die pals. You love them, but they might not always be available. And that’s okay! Meet Ashwini, 35, a teacher. Her hero friend is Sunita, a busy entrepreneur. They don’t talk often, but when they do? Magic happens. “I’ve learned our friendship doesn’t need daily check-ins to be meaningful,” Ashwini says.

  1. Hygiene Friends: Your everyday buddies. Think neighbors, colleagues, gym pals. Lisa, 40, has this figured out. Her neighbor Mark? They chat while walking dogs. Grab coffee sometimes. “It’s not deep,” Lisa says, “but it adds a nice rhythm to life.” We see you, Lisa!

  1. Hub Friends: Your social anchors. They keep you connected to your wider circle. Emma, 29, calls her college roommate Olivia her hub friend. Different cities, but daily texts and weekly calls. “Olivia keeps me in the loop with everyone,” Emma explains. Sounds like a friendship jackpot!

Now, you might be thinking, “Wait, should I categorize my friends?” Slow down, champ! It’s not about labeling. It’s about understanding different friendship dynamics. Some thrive on daily chats. Others? They can pick up right where they left off after months of silence.

Interesting, right? But here’s where it gets even juicier.

Friendships are like investments, but way more unpredictable. If we had a Friendship Charts Satisfaction Index (sadly, we don’t), it’d be all over the place!

So why bother juggling multiple friendships? Great question!

The Economics of Friendship

  1. friendship economics is unique. It’s not about quantity. It’s about quality and rarity. Think about your childhood bestie. Years might pass, but when you meet? It’s like no time has passed at all. That’s the magic of shared history.

2. Life stages matter too. Your college party buddy might not fit into your new parent life. And that’s okay!

3. Patience is key. Some friendships are slow burners. That work colleague? In 10 years, they might be your closest confidant. You never know!

So, what’s the takeaway? Friendships evolve. We evolve. It’s all part of the game. Don’t pressure yourself to maintain every friendship at maximum intensity. It’s not realistic, and honestly? It’s not necessary.

Embracing Diverse Friendships

Embrace the diversity of your friendships. Prioritize without guilt. The best friendships? They understand and grow with you, no matter what category they fall into.

Before you go, here’s a fun fact: anthropologist Robin Dunbar says humans can only maintain about 150 stable relationships. Mind-blown? Next time you’re scrolling through your contacts, remember: quality over quantity!

Now, go share this with your friends (all categories welcome) on WhatsApp, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Spread the friendship wisdom!

Until next time, keep being an awesome friend – in your own unique way!

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